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Looking for a friend...
Posted:Nov 14, 2019 7:48 am
Last Updated:Jun 5, 2020 10:37 am

Sex is but a memory these days...after a busy Summer and an even busier Fall, anyone I was trying to meet and become better acquainted with has gone. At this point it’s going to be a long, cold, winter! Though I still hold out hope that I’ll meet a new friend (two of I’m being greedy) to spend what little free time I have with.

I did have an amazing dream the other night though...dream sex is never as fulfilling though.
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It’s Fall...
Posted:Sep 24, 2019 10:32 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2020 9:05 am

Time to get and snuggly!

So, with our favorite messenger closing down (September 27th if you haven’t heard), what is everyone switching to? The big yellow smile is gone...K is shutting down...I’m not willing to give my personal cell to every “Tom, Dick, and Harry”...so what’s left? Let’s figure it together!
How to Lose Any Chance of Ever Getting a Gal’s Number...
Posted:Jul 10, 2019 12:50 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2019 7:24 am
So, I’ve posted an email exchange I had this morning. Up until he gave his (edited along with his name), he seemed fairly normal.

I use “it” as a “stepping stone” of sorts to the super crazy/stalker types. It’s a system, just like 😊 or the others used to be. It’s free to use and you aren’t giving your personal information to strangers on the internet. Once I feel comfortable with people, I’ll happily move on to if that’s the preferred platform.

But something I noticed, other than the fact that he firmly planted himself in the “crazy/stalker type” category, was that he believed that they use women to “lure” men into paying for it. It’s a FREE system! Some people are using it to then lead you to their sites, but I have no control over everyone else. My husband finds them online too. Do you know what he does? He deletes that person and moves on!

No skin off my back, he quickly went from the interesting to not gonna go near that and I move on. I’m picky, I know it...the few people I choose to be around usually appreciate it...the rest, well...have a good day!
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Time to find a new playmate...
Posted:Jun 12, 2019 2:44 pm
Last Updated:Jul 20, 2019 7:47 pm

So, here I am again, looking for a “regular” playmate. I want a friend that I can get naked with at least once a week. No cheaters, if you have a significant other, let’s all meet, I’ll being my husband and we can make sure everything is kosher. No smokers, no drugs (legal or otherwise...meds to keep you alive are another story). As always, I prefer taller men, but never rule anyone out without meeting first.

So, let’s chat!
Drop me a line if....
Posted:Apr 3, 2019 11:27 pm
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2019 8:51 pm

You're longer than average (anything over 8 would be great) and can hold a decent conversation with your clothes on! I have a very special request and would love to hear from a few guys fitting the bill.

Locals preferred, non-smokers required. As always, be polite.
Question time!
Posted:Jul 13, 2018 6:22 pm
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2019 6:08 pm

So, sitting here thinking about my plans for the evening...wondering whether I’ll write about them later. I know I put a lot of really depressing crap here, I trying to get better about that. I’ll definitely get back to sharing some of my fantasies, maybe enlist some help in fulfilling them (if you’re local to me and open minded, let’s chat a bit).

But, until then, what do you want to see here? Give me some things to write about, contemplate, ponder... Is there anything specific you want to know about me?
Getting this off my chest...
Posted:Jul 11, 2018 11:16 pm
Last Updated:Sep 26, 2019 10:24 pm

To reinforce the reason I typically avoid exes....

First, the most recent breakup...his mother thought it was important to let me know he’s single again. I told you she knew we were more than friends...but why the hell does she want me to know you’re single again? I mean...I called that one, but sheesh! She is such a nice woman...it’s why I decided not to spill all the secrets I know.

Then, to add insult to injury (though neither thing really hurt me any now), I ran across a fb post from the “man” I divorced 15 years ago, wishing his a happy 16th birthday. Well, I can math...the flipping was BORN before he moved to the other side of the state and I filed for a divorce! I’ve known for the last 15 years that he was cheating on me with a guy, dude confessed to me after he left. But, somehow finding out that he was also sleeping with another woman and got her pregnant has surprised me....so much more than seeing that he had gotten divorced again and married a man this time.

I know neither of these things effect me now and it’s a blessing I didn’t know about the prior to the divorce, it really could have drug that process out. But, with my busy schedule this summer and lack of finding anyone to fill the time I do have available...sometimes leaves me wondering if I’m not the problem here.

Then I remember, I’m not the one who cheated...I didn’t move away from my partner (a blessing since it was abusive, but that’s a long story for a different forum). I didn’t throw away a 2.5 year relationship for a less than 8 week fling for the third time. I’m better off without them, I’m HAPPIER without them, but it still stings, especially the most recent one because these were guys I put my full trust in. There are others who have my full trust that haven’t let me down, but the bad experiences always stand out more prominently than the good memories and good people. There can be a thousand good memories and the only ones I can see clearly are the few bad ones.

I will have many, many more happy experiences, and a few more bad or sad ones, and I look forward to them, even as I struggle to wrap my brain around the new information I have.
Posted:Jun 14, 2018 12:23 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2018 10:49 pm
Family life keeps me hopping this time of year, with little time to get out and play, but I do my best to not let it fall to the wayside.

I’m working on a bucket list (and working my way down it too), but it really is a short list! I’m either not creative enough or maybe I’ve already done a lot of the “standard” bucket list items. Either way, I’m having great fun and making a friend or two along the way.

My list...

I. Multiplayer mode
II. Try a new toy type
III. Get my site back up and start doing reviews again (which leads to...)
IV. Go to AVN again (by 2020)
V. Find a new regular partner (no one offs, not my style)
VI. .............I’m open to suggestions!

Along with the more “fun” list above, I’m working on getting my health back under control. While I am relatively healthy, my weight is always a struggle and getting it back down is a major concern for me. Anyone willing to help with that would be greatly appreciated!

I have forgiven and moved on from more recent events of the last year, I hope everyone involved can find what makes them happy, I know I am.
Starting fresh.
Posted:Apr 19, 2018 4:38 pm
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2018 10:50 am

1-No liars.

2-No cheaters. I know this is hard to comprehend for some because I’m married, but my husband KNOWS and is fine with me having another (or other) partner(s), but not cheating because I have permission and you should too.

3-No smokers (yuck)!

4- 6’ tall or above (preferably above).

That’s kind of it for requirements...it shouldn’t be too hard to find. Some of these are non-negotiable.
Here again!
Posted:Apr 15, 2018 8:14 pm
Last Updated:Jun 12, 2019 2:26 pm

So here I am again...blindsided by someone I thought loved me. I love him very much and will always, but today I found out just how little he thought of me. So, I’m not “single” (I still have my husband), but I feel single. I feel like I was thrown out with yesterday’s trash because I wasn’t good enough. I know what I’m worth and it’s a hell of a lot more than he (my now ex boyfriend) deserves. I know I’ll find someone that compliments my personality again. Hopefully next time will be someone willing to have a grownup relationship and not hide it away. Yes, I’m married, but we’re poly and we are very open about it! It was never anyone’s secret except his. I can’t say I’m not upset, I’m very upset but mostly at myself for letting my guard down. He did the same thing 2 years ago (damn near to the day) and between them even moved a girl into his small apartment and I found out recently, shared his bed with her.

I’m not surprised, I’m angry with myself for letting myself think everything was fine. I’m sure it was going on for a while and I’m just that clueless. Or maybe I just loved him enough not to see the blatant lies when he was telling me everything was great only a few days ago.

Moving on is all right can do, for everyone coming behind him...good luck, I’ve added several feet to my already high walls.
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Ideas for happier posts...?
Posted:Mar 14, 2018 10:02 am
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2018 5:49 am

I realized the other day that I only post here when I have something to gripe bout. That’s not really fair to either of my guys, there’s plenty of good things that go on between the things I complain about. So, give me some topic ideas! Keep in mind, I don’t generally kiss and tell or give specifics...but I’m open to ideas!
If not a "booty call", then what....?
Posted:Mar 3, 2018 7:36 am
Last Updated:Jun 14, 2018 1:05 pm

So, by my definition (no dictionary usage here, just my understanding of it), a "booty call" is a late night call for the purposes of getting laid only.

If a person tells you that you aren't a booty call, yet only wants you to arrive late at night to have sex....what is it? It certainly is not a relationship at that point.

Relationships are work...they include at least knowing a friend or two. At bare minimum, leaving the house together occasionally and not being afraid to run into someone you might know and introducing the person you are with.

Am I wrong?

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