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winnipegjewel13 55F
4419 posts
10/28/2008 3:54 am

At the Ball, my girlfriend got up on stage in the dungeon to be paddled and spanked. I watched in a little bit of fascination.
I don't get it. Now don't get me wrong, I am not judging. To each their own. If that is what you like, all the more power to you.
But watching it, I could not understand the attraction in it. If some guy slapped my ass like that, I would most likely turn around and kick him in the balls. LOL And a paddle? No way!!
Anyone out there like this kind of thing? What made you realize you liked it? What exactly does it do for you? Why did you try it the first time? I would love to hear some opinions.

MuchMusicMan1968 52M
2316 posts
10/28/2008 11:11 am

Does nothing for me.

winnipegjewel13 replies on 10/30/2008 1:14 am:
Yup, agreed.

able202 70M
2953 posts
10/28/2008 7:44 pm

Once at AQ a guy tied his lady friend to the wall downstairs and used a whip. It seemed the idea was humiliation because he would strike her buttocks and up between her legs. He even pushed the handle of the whip into her cunt. I was fascinated that she was into it but not by the whipping. The lady I was with wanted to watch but I had a hard time being there in the room. It was interesting to see the look on my friend's face though.
As you say I would never judge and what happens at AQ is always between consenting people I would hope.
It isn't for me. I'm a licker not a spanker. Slurp I like a really hard fuck but not to injure or leave marks..


winnipegjewel13 replies on 10/30/2008 1:17 am:
A licker not a spanker. Hmmmm. Good to know!!

14 posts
10/28/2008 8:44 pm

umm tuff one so like some dont just remind's me of school

winnipegjewel13 replies on 10/30/2008 1:17 am:
Exactly. And that is not something I find sexy.

SensuallyThine 65M
5314 posts
10/29/2008 6:00 pm

I also don't understand spanking and paddling. I read women's profiles where they say they love getting spanked while doing doggie ... I don't get it. I've thought of it when using that position - not because I'm thinking of spanking her but because thoughts of what I've read come back to me - and it seems incongruous with the enjoyment.

Like you, I don't judge, except to judge that it is not for me.

winnipegjewel13 replies on 10/30/2008 1:18 am:
Me either. I don't even think that it would be exciting to do it to someone, if someone asked me I would be uncomfortable.

Eriond30 45M
122 posts
11/2/2008 11:26 am

Hrm.... figured as a Ball regular you might have some BDSM pros on here who'd be able to answer this

I don't know all the psychology behind it. Part of it is the humiliation and degradation, that somehow does become sexual for some people. Some of it is the connections between pleasure & pain; as I understand it, they engage some of the same parts of the brain, so it's a very thin line between the two. There is some people for whom the SM thing as a whole goes back to childhood abuse, unfortunately. Those are people, IMO, who shouldn't be in the scene.

As for how you learn you're into it? Can't really help you there. I'm just a vanilla floating in a sea of pervs, and enjoy watching mostly naked bodies The Ball website and forums have a lot of info, and personal accounts, if you want to do a little digging. Or, at the next ball you're at, just ask. The staff DMs, especially, are happy to talk to people.

winnipegjewel13 replies on 11/2/2008 11:41 pm:
Thanks for all the info. At the next Ball I will ask the DM, good idea. Have we met at any of the Balls?

justskin4me 68M

11/3/2008 8:20 pm

I am with you. I don't understand the whole pain and humiliation thing. I know some people really get off on it but I can't wrap my mind around it.

Jim justskin 4 me @!@

Naked by choice. Clothed under duress.

winnipegjewel13 replies on 11/4/2008 6:08 am:
I personally like sex to be ALL about pleasure only......

Eriond30 45M
122 posts
11/11/2008 12:02 am

jewel, nope don't believe we met before. Sorry I missed you at Halloween! My s.o. is Raven/Silk, the redhead BBW DM. I'll definitely try to track you down at the next one!

winnipegjewel13 replies on 11/11/2008 3:12 am:
I will be there. Usually sitting with the Lovenest girls, so easy to find.

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