Lifestylers of Western CO

We will plan regular events within the group. And plan trips to other swinger/lifestyle events.

Lifestyle etiquette is expected at all times, while in the group setting.

Below you will find a list of basic lifestyle info and beliefs!

All members should make regular posts and feel free to ask any question you desire. Hopefully you will get great feedback from other members.

Lets keep this group fun and drama free!!!

Basic lifestyle info and beliefs:

1) Swinging is not cheating.

a) If you do something with someone else that you would not do if your partner was standing right next to you, it is cheating. b) If you are going outside the relationship to get something that you should be getting inside the relationship, it is cheating. Anything you do with someone else behind your partner’s back and against their wishes is betrayal of trust. Swingers eliminate lying, distrust and secrecy from their relationship. Everything that a person does in the Lifestyle is done openly, honestly and with the full consent and enthusiasm of their partner. Otherwise, even the most experienced swinger would consider it cheating. Swingers detest cheaters and do not condone cheating of any kind.

2)"Isn’t that all that swingers do when they’re together?… Have sex?"

That’s ridiculous! While an open-minded and playful attitude towards sex is something that all people in the Lifestyle have in common, it doesn’t mean that sex is some sort of mandatory requirement when swingers meet each other. Swingers aren’t rabbits! Just like in the regular dating world, there has to be chemistry & mutual attraction between people before anyone moves on to sex.

3)"Could swinging make my spouse want to leave me?"

We won’t lie to you. There are some relationships which have broken up while trying to enter the Lifestyle. But that is usually because one half of the couple was pushed into it by their spouse. That is not the Lifestyle’s fault. That’s the fault of an unstable relationship with bad communication and lack of respect for your partner. Swinging is a decision that BOTH partners have to agree on totally and completely.

4)"Doesn’t wanting sex with other people mean that swingers must be unhappy in their own relationships?"

Statistics show that 78.5% of married couples in the lifestyle are very happy while 64% of the general public are the same. As you can see, couples in the Lifestyle are actually more likely to be very happy in their relationships than the average couple. It’s easy to understand why, since couples that swing typically have a much higher level of trust, honesty and communication with their partner than the average non-swinger couple. You don’t need Dr. Phil to tell you that those are three things that are key in a healthy and happy relationship. Plus, having a partner who wants to help you fulfill your sexual fantasies… How can you not be happy about that!

5)"So will joining the Lifestyle help fix an unhappy relationship?"

No! No! Nooooooooooo!!!! We can’t stress this enough! If you are having problems with your relationship DO NOT under any circumstances get into the Lifestyle! You will most likely end up destroying your relationship. You should only enter the Lifestyle if you already have a stable, trusting and wonderful relationship. If your relationship is already great, and both partners are willing, the Lifestyle can make it even better. Couples first entering the Lifestyle can often stir up unexpected and powerful emotions such as jealousy, which can only be overcome if your relationship is solid. A shaky relationship will only get worse.

6)“If my spouse really loved me, wouldn’t I be the only one they think about having sex with?”

There are two things at work here, animal lust and love. Animal lust is what you felt in your late teens early twenties when you were on your dates and had that first kiss, the first touch of her thigh, the feeling of his hand on your knee not knowing if you were going to explode when things progressed. When we fall in love, those feelings of lust towards your partner will eventually cool down, and are replaced with a wonderful feeling of security and attachment. But the craving for animal lust will always be there… That is why so many people give in to the lustful cravings and cheat on their partners. Swinging is something that couples do because they love each other. They love to please each other and watch each other be pleasured. The passion that it stirs in them can take them to a higher level of intensity than you can't believe. Since they willingly indulge each other’s lustful cravings in a cooperative and supervised manner, there is far less chance that they will fall prey to temptation when they are away from each other.

7)"Won’t I get incredibly jealous seeing my partner have sex with another person"

You very well might at first. Jealousy is anger and insecurity caused by fear of losing something... In this case, your partner. That’s why it’s important to take things slow, communicate and listen to your partner. You and your partner need to remember that no matter what happens, you love each other and you are going home together. Besides, when you swing with other couples, it’s good to remember that they are there for the same reason as you are, fun. Lifestyle couples are committed to each other and have no interest in stealing your mate or breaking up your relationship.

8)"But what if someone seems better at sexually pleasuring my spouse than I am?"

That might happen from time to time. There are 2 ways you could handle this situation: a) Get really upset and jealous and selfishly resent your spouse for enjoying something that felt good. Or b) Enjoy watching your spouse receive pleasure, then learn what they were doing so you can add it to your sexual repertoire and do it at home. We strongly suggest option #2! You’ll learn something new from almost every person that you play with. Each different person you play with might have one or two special ingredients that you really like… If you pay attention, you can learn how to combine all of the best ingredients into the perfect sexual meal for your partner… And only you know that special recipe! This is the reason you will never meet a swinger who doesn’t think that sex with their partner is the greatest they’ve ever had… Because each time they play with someone else, the sex at home gets even better.

9)"What about diseases and STDs?"

Diseases and STDs are something that everyone should be concerned about, not just swingers. But the reality of the situation is that people in the Lifestyle tend to be far more educated and much more careful about STDs than the average person. They are also far more likely to use sexual protection and get regularly tested than the average person. Swingers almost always carry sexual protection with them when they go to an event… and in the rare case that nobody has any protection, they will happily take a rain check, knowing that they will always have another opportunity in the near future. Swingers realize that they are not only protecting themselves, they’re protecting their partners and the partners of the people they play with. They take this responsibility very seriously. Not using proper protection before attempting sexual intercourse is viewed as one of the most rude and inexcusable acts in the Lifestyle. Plus, if you attempt to play without protection, you will end up having more than just one person angry at you. Word travels fast in the Lifestyle, and nobody wants to play with “Johnny No-Rubber”.