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Warning: please be cautious of who you get invovled with...
so last week at a play party with another group i met a couple and they seemed very nice. i started talking to them online the next day and they seemed great. we got along really well and i, stupidly, trusted them immediately. i ended up going and hanging out with the two of them the night next night and then wednesday i brought the boyfriend out to zekes. it was that night that all hell started breaking lose and i should have backed away then but i felt like they were still good people and wanted to help them. they were fighting and needed to be away from each other, so my roommate and i took the boyfriend into our home and let him stay there for a few days while they were suppose to get things straightened out.
well, last night, he started going crazy on me. screaming and yelling at me about my "attitude" and what not, which might i say, was not bad... i was getting a little annoyed with the situation and was slightly irritated, that was it. he wouldn't stop. he just kept yelling and screaming and then started in on saying some really horrible things to me. so it was at that point that i asked him to leave my apartment. he didn't have a car or money or anything, but there wasn't any way in hell i felt safe giving him a ride anywhere, i just wanted him out. he refused to leave. he wanted some of his stuff that was still in my car and i wasn't about to leave him alone in my apartment. so i called 911. at this point he got even more irate. he lit up a cigarette in my house which is one of my main rules and he knew it, so he was purposefully being disrespectful to me. i grabbed it and put it out. he screamed at me and lit up another one. i again grabbed it and put it out. it was this point that he hit me. you guys know me, i like being hit. hehehe... but i've never been hit this way, i never would have wanted to be hit this way and i don't ever want to be hit like that ever again. it was more of a "push" but for all intents and purposes it was a hit. he pushed me with all of his force, with both hands in my face. it knocked me backwards and knocked my glasses off my face. all the while still screaming at me. and telling me to call the police... that he would tell them everything i've done... which was seriously at most, to get irritated and taking his cigarettes from him. the dude is absolutely fucking crazy. so i called 911 again to tell them it was getting violent and that i needed them there NOW. my roommate, is an absolute sweet heart and amazing, he got out of bed and came into the room when he heard me screaming that the fucker had hit me... so with my roommate up, i went outside. the police showed up right about that time and had to force him out of my house. i told them that i didn't want bother with a police report or anything of that nature that i just wanted him gone. so they got him gone...
so please, please be cautious of who you get involved with. kindness never pays, apparently. and trust me, i know how stupid all of this was on my part as well.
i will say that i think the girlfriend, still seems to be a total sweetheart, she has her issues too... mostly that she's willing to put up with this scumbag. but i don't think she's a bad person or anything like that. i would continue to be friends with her if he wasn't in her life. i don't know if they're going to get back together or what... i hope not because no one deserves to be treated the way he treats people. i can only pray that he doesn't ever come back out to another party or to zekes. i could only imagine what my wonderful freinds in this group would do if he never showed up to zekes... so actually, i guess i do hope that he comes back out. haha. but seriously, he is an absolute crazy, horrible, violent person.
his name is Josh. if you met him wednesday night, please discontinue all contact (i don't think that anyone exchanged any kind of contact info with him, but i wasn't around him every second we were there). he's probably 6'2, very skinny, bleach blonde hair, goatee. he was sitting next to me all night.
with love,
-dewaltgirl
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dewalt, I am so sorry you had to deal with that situation. It's sad but there are many people out there just like this Josh who can maintain a 'normal' facade ... then change in a heartbeat to a screaming monster when they don't get their way or get ticked off for any little reason. I've met them too.
Sweety you had no idea he was crazy, it's not your fault. He obviously knows how to play the game. Just keep your eyes open in case he comes back. And if he does come to Zeke's you know he won't be able to get anywhere near you.
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Honey I'm glad you are all right!! You know the drill--not bothering with that ... Hugs!
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Yes I know who you speak of...he was VERY fond of girls stainless steal collar.
Too bad, he seemed nice enough when we talked, probably why you let him into your home...
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Oh dear girl im so sorry you had to go through that we have not met personally but ive seen you a couple of times at zekes and i just want you to know that if you have any trouble with this jerk again feel free to contact me i make a pretty good body guard
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Damn girl...glad you are safe and ok. Hun...if you haven't thought about it...might now...he does know where you live so be even more aware of your surroundings when you are home.
Sucks that you had to go through this but thank you for sharing with us about this guy. It does pay to be nice...just take more time to get to know someone next time...you know not everyone is like him.
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Okay DeWalt...gonna do the "Uncle" thing here. Don't be offended please, cause this is NONE of my business. Your life is your life. But, you put it out there...
WHAT THE FUCK were you thinking letting someone in your home that you have only known for a few days??? I mean, a fuck buddy is one thing, but a head case in emotional discord is different...
NEVER physically challenge someone who is obviously not in control unless you know WITHOUT A DOUBT that you can disable them in a confrontation with minimal risk to youself and others...
GET a restraining order on this raging idiot before he does some true harm to you...I don't think this is over...
I don't want to read about you being a statistic...
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this is Cathy.
sweetie, i am so sorry to hear about this, i am glad that you were not hurt.
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Toyz ... see, I'd be the person who would try and fight back and slam his face into the groun, wall, counter top until that fucker bled. I don't take that shit ... And it just PISSES me off hearing that someone so nice got that shit put on them ... I WANT to go to Zekes now just so I can this pussy who hits women and ... well ... I can't do anything ... it's not my fight .. I'm not gonna start shit ... My dad told me NEVER start anything ... esp with someone that you think might be a mental case, like he seems to be.
Still pisses me off.
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Wow Dewalt sorry to hear about this, my prayers are with you that all will work out in the end. 
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thank you all. more than anything i'm sorry that i brought this guy into our group. he does absolutely come off as a sweet, kindhearted person... but he's obviously not. i made the mistake of trusting him to quickly and i got burned for it. but i've always been very easily trusting and it's not a part of me that's going to change anytime soon, especially because of one asshole.
i do think it's over, but only because he's in north okc and doesnt have any way to get down here nor would he even really know where "here" is. the only thing i have to deal with, is his gf coming here and getting his rat... yes, i even let him bring his pet rat with him... my snakes are totally flipping out... they're not use to "food" being in the room all the time. (before anyone says it, i wouldn't ever dream of feeding a pet to my snakes.... if anything, i'd put the rat up on craigsist as free to good home... plus it's too big for any of my snakes... haha. but the smell is driving them nuts... i can't hold them because they're in constant attack mode).
anyways... i don't even think i can file a protective order becuase i didn't file a police report that night. if there's even any mention of him coming anywhere around me, then i'll look into it, but i honestly don't think that his gf will let him and he wouldn't be able to on his own.
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Wow Dewalt, I do remember him now that, I think about it and should he come back to Zeke's please let me know or one of the others. I know people in management at Zeke's and they would want to know if something happen so they can take care of it
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Understand the trusting nature. Try to believe that most people are good at heart. 99.99% of the time this works out well, but that 0.01% can be just fucking scary.
This person sounds like one of the sick ones (bipolar?) and that you did the right thing by dialing 911 and not getting into a verbal or physical confrontation with them.
Don't wish to sound paranoid, but wouldn't hurt to be a little extra cautious for a while.
And don't be shy about asking for your friends help if you think you might need it. Sounds like you have a tight group and you both might feel better for it.
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Don't worry about the VPO we have our own Justice at Zeke's you know your protected there and say the word I will have him banned from there permanently. He don't want to show his face among this group for sure. Wizard
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itsallgoodtonite,
you must have something confused, being bipolar or anything really for that matter doesn't make someone sick. i have bipolar. being a horrible person is what makes someone sick... this guy definitely is a horrible person, but probably not bipolar. if he's anything, he's probably a sociopath.
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Since Toyz played the Uncle card, I'll play the Poppa Bear card:
Due to the great people in our group, we do play a numbers game. Being that the group is popular and successful, there is a number of people (both singles and couples) who drift in and sometime out of the group. Subsequently, every now and then, an asshole pops up...(damn it, no pun intended  ) Fortunately, the majority of folks are friendly, gregarious and fun !!!
Thanks, DeWalt, for the courage to speak the truth and relate to others here in the group(s) the identity of the problem child.
Let's use this tale as both a learning experience and as a reminder to everyone to be cautious with their new contacts
Take care, Sweetie. Doc~~~
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Dew, might be a good idea to make sure a couple of peeps know when you're headed home & that you made it in safely... for awhile at least. Text msgs are your friend  Just cuz he didn't have a car while he was with you, doesn't mean he can't get his hands on one in the future. Please be safe. Sorry you went thru that. Hope we don't experience him again. *hugs*
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looking4, i really apreciate your comments and well wishes, thank you.
but i really couldn't give a shit less if people disagreed with you... thus i really coudn't give a shit less to have your rant about people disagree with you in my post. i don't care if you're right or wrong, simply becuase it's not going to go that far... so it doesn't matter. please just fucking drop it.
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I tried to help someone 3-4 years ago. Big mistake. Got me into a lot of trouble,and I'm still paying for that mistake.
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