At my age one realises that the chance of both physical and emotional perfection have probably passed me by but I am intelligent, realistic, emotionally aware, sexually imaginative, assertive and dedicated to the pursuit of pleasure. I am married with a young family and intend to stay that way but the marriage is now a partnership to ensure that my sons grow in to happy, healthy, educated and responsible young men rather than something that fulfils me in a more personal way. Problem is, I am innately selfish and need the personal fulfilment as well. I am here in the hope that I might find someone who wants travel my path with me (for more than one "night" but not forever). Things you should know about me? Firstly, I am a serial (monogamous) adulterer. I feel no shame in that statement. I would rather find pleasure in the company of someone who empathises with my circumstances (and maybe shares them) than dance around with someone who's goals are different. I see my adventures with others as discrete episodes in my life where we explore together but are willing to accept that such a journey is, by its nature, self limiting. I describe myself as confident, intelligent, articulate and witty. Others might differ in their interpretation (for reference sarcasm is a form of wit even if it is the lowest one) but I am far from a social pariah though I will admit, as most men should, to being better at understanding emotions than expressing them. What can you expect? Enjoyable, urbane conversation, the thrill of a light touch followed by caring caresses and a walk towards some of the more interesting parts of the human psychosexual spectrum without getting to heavy and stereotyped. I also enjoy what an ex "friend" of mine liked to call "canoodling". Not all pleasures in life require you to take your clothes off and not all circumstances allow it! Two like minds, a quiet corner and a little care and you might be surprised at what can be achieved. More Daniel Craig than Brad Pitt but far less interested in what others think of me than they are. I am in my mid forties so don't expect an Adonis with a six pack but I do make enough of an effort to make sure that not everything has headed south quite yet. My boyish blonde locks are now fading towards grey but they are still in place. Clean shaven (usually), own teeth, usually seen during daylight hours in a suit and double cuff shirt. As I have got older (and having come to care less about other people's choices for me) the tie has started to become relegated to more formal settings. Since I keep getting misconstrued or misunderstood I decided to start a blog to give some (probably far too pretentious) insight in to my particular world view. You can find it here: [blog Coeus1967]

My Ideal Person I hope to find someone else who needs (rather than just wants) what I need. More specifically I seek a fellow traveller who fully understands the requirement for our time together to be safe (in all senses) and who is able to compartmentalise our time together in order to make sure we both can make the most possible from our "relationship".

Not a one night stand kind of guy. I need a friend, a lover, a playmate for moments of madness and pleasure whenever our diaries allow it. I think the word "mistress" (with a deliberate small m) should be reclaimed for those of us who appreciate that grace and femininity do not preclude the need for raucous sexual satisfaction.

You will be smart, a bit sassy, aware of yourself and who you are / could be. All I need is someone who is willing to give themselves to a properly articulated, involved experience and is willing to let me suggest the route along that road. Not too much to ask?

If you fancy giving the status quo a quick kick in the chops feel free to drop me a line.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
My desk at work, A store dressing room, A hotel room, Anywhere

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Fetishes, Light Bondage, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Latex, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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