[B]I am recently widowed, and I really enjoy spending time with family, when I make it to Ohio, and friends. Also just moved back to Ohio, and started a new job. UPDATE: I now live in Indiana, and work 20-35 hours. Ideal first date for me would be a cup of coffee at Waffle House or IHop I was married to an alcoholic for almost 17 years. He wanted his Jim Beam and his vodka more then he wanted a family. In August of 2018, I moved out, and then he passed away in November. A couple of summers ago I went through a life changing experience. I had to have an emergency hysterectomy and then got a flesh-eating bacteria and was in the hospital for a month. Now with the skin graft on my abdomen, I am so much more self-conscience as ever before. The doctor said that my abdomen will fill back out in 5 -10 years. Will send a pic of the area if you really want to see it so would have to be with some other form of commination. I do know that NOT all men are like DRUNK, and I do understand that you may have to have a beer after a long, hard day, and I am fine with that, but please don't drink when I am with you, I would rather have a cup of coffee or a diet soda. As it says in my personal information I DON'T drink at ALL! So I would appreciate it if you would adhere to this. I like to read, write, and spending time with my family, friends, watching Ohio State football. Baseball (Go Indians), Basketball (Go Cavs!) , from my favorite sports teams, can you tell where I am originally from??? Movies. and several TV shows. I love country and rock music, and would like to become a successful author. I love spending time with family and friends. To unwind from some of the stress I also like to just get in the car and drive, while listening to the music on my phone thru my Blue tooth. For some rea just driving relaxes me! I am a mother of two, and a grandmother of 4 boys. I am a lot more comfortable meeting over a drink and get to know someone. I don't judge a book by its cover, but what is inside. Size doesn't matter; it is how you use it! And skin is just skin. Does not matter the color, shape or size! I am more comfortable in a pair of sweatpants, shorts, tee shirts and hoodies......Have never been a dress up type of per. I am not looking for the next husband, I do believe in marriage, but that has not been the best for me, so to be upfront here, I am not looking to get married again. Am just looking for a very long term friendship and with the benefits.

My Ideal Person Someone who knows how to treat a woman. A Man who can make me feel secure about myself again. I will admit, that I let the DRUNK walk all over me, and I lost myself, and my self-esteem, but I would so like to get it back after I get rid of this baggage that I was married too. A friend first, with the benefits added, a sounding board, a cuddlier, a playmate, and anything else we can come up with!

A man who doesn't judge on looks, because I don't judge them!

Emotional and verbal abuse is just as bad as physical, and sometimes, I wish he would have hit me, so I have the bruises to show the public. Yes I am a victim of emotional and verbal abuse, and I hope I am not letting that stop me from moving forward!!

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Too many to list on here

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
A little of each

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Robert Downy Jr. I mean come on he is HOT!!!

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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