First and foremost, I am married without permission to be here... if you have made it past that, let me tell you about myself! I enjoy and crave sexuality and a sexual connection. But that said, I am looking for much more than just getting laid, I firmly believe that there must be mental stimulation first followed by levels of comfort, caring, and trust, before either of us can be satisfied. After all, how willing would anyone be to please someone else if they aren't pleased and satisfied themselves? I am looking for an affair, true, but one focused on gratification on a few levels - not ONLY getting Inc together occasionally (let's be honest, getting laid isn't that hard). At the same time though, we must both respect the boundaries that go with an affair, and understand/accept that while there has to be an emotional connection in addition to the sexual connection, the emotional connection only exists in concern for the others pleasure and making sure desires are met.