EBONY (and Ivory) Socials is a private "Lifestyle" network [COLOR chocolate][B] FRIENDS[/B][/COLOR] (not a club) -- of health conscious adult couples, ladies, and select gentlemen. WARNING: Any institutions using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. [B][COLOR darkred]QUALITY...NOT QUANTITY[/COLOR][/B] Our objective is to establish a close-knit group of friends who are [COLOR blue][B][U]discreet[/U]...even closeted lifestylers.[/COLOR] Some have called us cliquish. That's okay. Works for us. We host INVITATION-ONLY house parties in the RALEIGH-DURHAM-FAYETTEVILLE, NC area. For the most part we will have a party whenever someone from our network requests one and the host is available. A typical party can be as intimate as five people to a festive ten to 15 sexciting folks! Each party is different depending on who requested it. We make every attempt ensure the chemistry is right for all involved. Here are some examples of the make up of different parties: 1) Straight Couples Only (man and woman are both straight), 2) Couples and ladies Only (usually bi ladies), 3) Ladies Only (usually bi or gay), 4) Cuckold Couples and gents Only (usually straight guys), 5) Bi Couples Only (man and woman are both bi), 6)Open Party. This type of party is very rare because of the different mixes of preferences. It's not the stimulus, it's the response. NO means NO (see "How We Operate" below). [COLOR crim][B]NOTE: Cameras, picture taking (with cell phone), and video recording are no longer permitted in our functions.[/B][/COLOR] If you do not understand the conventions and rules of the swinging culture, this may not be the lifestyle for you. Our parties are private discreet affairs. [COLOR red]No one is invited sight unseen. BEFORE HAVING GUESTS IN [COLOR blue]HIS [/COLOR]HOME ALL PROSPECTIVE PARTICIPANTS (couples and singles) MUST MEET FACE-TO-FACE (never on the same day of a party) WITH THE HOST to have a frank discussion about the Lifestyle and our rules.[/COLOR] Or, if we have not seen you in the last six months, let's arrange to meet to get reacquainted. Meeting online is not meeting. [COLOR orangered]If we have met and you have not been invited to a function, it's because we have not had a party that I think matches your interests or comfort level.[/COLOR] If you're not willing to meet casually (with no expectations)and with our male host, this probably is not the network for you. Remember, this is only one group of many. Keep on browsing. You'll find something that is more attuned to your interests. How we operate: Absolutely NO DRAMA! We honor the GOLDEN RULE -- "NO means NO." Anyone (yourself included) may say “NO” at any time for any rea, without further explanation. Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody. Saying “No” should be done with a simple “No, thank you.” Never give an explanation because that is what usually causes problems and hurt feelings. Don’t forget that people’s attitudes can change with time and the situation. Who knows? Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different outcome. Be Courteous. Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties and fears. Courteously is how we all want to be treated – with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding, and sensitivity. Be Friendly. Whether or not you are perally interested in being with someone be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that per again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and wish to share time. After all, this is a party!!! Besides, you don’t want to be rude or judgmental because you wouldn’t want it to happen to you. Respect Others Feelings. Understand not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping him or her over the rough spots. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; and alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things. Don’t Be Pushy. If you are interested in “partying” with someone let him or her know in an inviting way. If they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say “No, thank you,” do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say “NO” at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Couples: Deal with Jealousy Head-On and BEFORE YOU GET TO THE PARTY! Learn what triggers jealousy in yourself and in your partner. Then work things out. This may mean modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual expression. Take time to stroke your partner’s ego. Touch bases with each other often, so that you both feel secure. Always arrive together. Honor any and all prior understandings. Always leave together. Your relationship together is not worth risking for the Lifestyle. Attending as a Single. If you are a man or woman attending the party solo, it is important to be sensitive to and respectful of the relationship that a couple has with each other. Keep relationships friendly and pleasant. Always propose never impose! It is disrespectful to propose a one-on-one liai with either half of a couple without the explicit approval of her or his partner. NO still means NO. Practice Safer Sex. It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, AIDS, yeast infection, etc. the use of condoms should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly. You are not being accused of being unclean. Simply someone wishes to be responsible and provide you both with protection. Alcohol and Drugs. Illegal drugs are never permitted. [U][COLOR darkred][B]WE ARE NOT 4-2-0 FRIENDLY[/B][/COLOR][/U]. If you drink, drink responsibly. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you “relax.” Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle. Enjoy Yourself. Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter, and a positive attitude.[COLOR darkred][/COLOR][B][/B] A Special Note To Single Guys: We appreciate single gentlemen and realize that you play an important role in the lifestyle so select single males are permitted. "Select" means that you must be clean, polite, well dressed, WELL ENDOWED, well mannered, secure with your sexuality, and drama-free.[COLOR darkred][/COLOR][U][/U][B][/B] If you're new to the lifestyle, protocol demands you respect the man's role in a couple's relationship. Having a conversation with the man does not mean that either of you is gay. You can't get to her without first engaging him in some type of dialogue. Anything less is rude and disrepectful.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
Will know when I've not done it. ;)

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
No particular place

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Role Playing, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've done it so many times that I've forgotten how to type with two hands.

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