Hard as it may be to believe I am not on here looking for one night stands or my own real life porno adventures. Quite frankly been there done that. I joined Adult Friend Finder eight years ago and honestly got some stuff out my system. Had some super hot adventures I enjoyed very much (and some not so hot ones as well, long story). I also learned a few things about myself in the process and for that I am grateful. But at this point in life my priorities have changed and I find the idea of making genuine connections on a peral level far more appealing. Like a lot of us the recession hit me pretty bad and forced some much needed introspection. Right now you’re thinking, “Ya right, this guy is full of B.S.” and I don’t blame you. After all this site isn’t exactly known for depth and sincerity. But back in 2008 I actually made a truly great friend on here so it can happen and I would love to have it happen again. I’ve found any conversation with anyone I’ve met on here has a “hyper-honesty” to it which is refreshing. I guess simply being on here removes any sense of pretense and makes conversation much easier. It’s weird but I’ve met women from what you’d call “normal” dating sites and found it much more difficult to have a decent conversation. I suppose it is because we are all on our “best behavior” and avoid taboo subjects. That’s what I love about this site, you start out discussing your taboo, wild side and then move onto the normal with relative ease. It sort of establishes a certain comfort level making it easier to bond (yes, physically as well as mentally). I’ve seen many women on here require a genuine mental connection in their profiles so I don’t think I’m way off base looking for the same. By the way I love reading the complaints about Adult Friend Finder women list in their profiles. Considering how similar they are it is AMAZING how many men just don’t take a hint and NOT DO all the things women clearly despise! Don’t ask me to explain my gender because I can’t. If I read 100 women’s profiles and they all say they hate when men do X, Y and Z then call me crazy but I will not do X, Y and Z!!! Why is that so hard to grasp? I would say the overall lack of class displayed by people on here is a big turn off. Come on people, I know it’s a sex site but do you have to be so crass? I mean get some style! Have some sense of dignity for Pete’s sake! (By the way, who is this Pete everyone always refers to?) My philosophy is, “be a gentleman until a lady wants you not to be.” That is usually in the bedroom guys… I just moved to the Portland area in July 2012 and still don’t know a lot of people (another long story). I was already an Adult Friend Finder member so I figure why not use it to actually make friends? Am I being naïve? I spent the vast majority of my life living and working in New York City, Manhattan specifically. Eventually I got sick of it and moved to Chicago. I loved living there but moved when I was offered a job in San Diego. After a few years I headed north to Los Angeles. Once I’d had my fill of Southern California I decided to give the Pacific Northwest a try. Now I’m here in Portland and love it. I am not a Saint, far from it. If you read the rest of my profile that will be obvious. I guess I’ve matured to the point where I don’t need to jump into bed with someone right away. There is nothing wrong with taking things slow. If there is genuine chemistry and we want to jump on each other then great. But it has to be there, otherwise it’s just forced. I can be a great confidante or anonymous voice in the wilderness. Hey, if you want to brag about past exploits I am all ears. I can certainly regale you with my own. No one said a great conversation has to be G-rated. And if you want to just have someone to gripe about Adult Friend Finder with then I’m your man! LOL! By the way I have a wicked sense of humor and will make you laugh. I’ve made people crack up so hard they couldn’t breathe. Think I’m exaggerating? I dare you to try me out. You might be asking, “So does this guy want platonic friends?” The answer; no, not at all. But I’m not “Mr. Slam, Bam! Thank you Ma’am” anymore. Why not meet, become friends and see where it goes? I can tell someone on Adult Friend Finder things about myself I honestly couldn’t admit to if we met on eHarmony. Does that sound lame? It is true. I once admitted some things about my past to a serious girlfriend I met at a party and found that it later caused issues. Mainly because she didn’t have the same “Experimental Wild Streak” I did. So if you are on here we are closer to being ‘of like mind’ then if we met another way. Women who know me describe me as an Angel with a wicked, naughty glint in his eye (this is an actual quote). And believe me the naughty spark is well earned. I’m a nice guy with a healthy amount of bad boy inside him. Sort of a decent guy with an indecent imagination or a Naughty Angel. Got a webcam just because of all the possibilities it presents. I live in Oregon but how fascinating would it be to talk to someone in, say Maine or another part of the world and actually see them. This doesn’t mean I don’t want to actually meet in per. I’m just saying the idea is cool. One of the coolest and most fascinating things about the Internet (and Adult Friend Finder) is it allows you to become friends with people you would NEVER meet under normal circumstances. So if you’d like to make a new special friend drop me a line. I’d love to hear from you. My Ideal Per Just someone who is cool, down to Earth and knows what they want out of life. Please no booze-hounds, druggies or drama queens. I tend to like women in their 30's and 40's because they have lived a little and are mature. I like meeting women I have things in common with.

My Ideal Person Just someone who is cool, down to Earth and knows what they want out of life. Please no booze-hounds, druggies or drama queens. I tend to like women in their 30's and 40's because they have lived a little and are mature. I like meeting women I have things in common with.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I would love to be with two women at once but doubt that will
ever happen. I guess this will stay a fantasy but a guy can
hope can't he? LOL!

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Not really, I don't like celebrities. Unless you count
the women on Spanish TV. Damn they are HOT!!!

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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