I've recently met someone who is an amazing sadist and is helping me explore masochism. I've been into BDSM for years but I'm really starting to gravitate to the M a lot. I'm not an emotional sub or into degradation or humiliation. When I submit to someone, I'm submitting to them inflicting erotic pain on me for pleasure, theirs and mine. Now for things I shouldn't have to say. If you can't make a scheduled session, call text or e-mail. If you interpret the fact that I'm a sub as you can just come over tell me to go head down, butt up and use my ass like a masturbation aid and leave, buy a damn Flesh Light. When I say you have to wear a condom to fuck me, what I mean is you are going to wear a condom to fuck me. Don't show up, say you forgot them and then say we don't need one. You'll be correct, you won't need one because I'm just gong to ask you to leave. Showers, most houses have them these days.

My Ideal Person Someone who is safe, sane, and understands the difference between erotic pain for pleasure and injury.

I'm open to vanilla sex though first preference is to someone in S&M. People new to S&M are fine but please but up front about it. If you're planning to flog me a few times to humor me and then fuck me, we're not a good match.

If you're in a committed relationship, I would prefer it if either both parties are present or you at least have permission/agreement.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I'd like to be fucked by a man while I go down on his wife/girlfriend/partner.
Or, I'd like to be fucked by a woman with a strap-on while
I suck her husband/boyfriend/partner.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A remote wilderness spot, Under a waterfall, A swimming pool or hot tub

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Hard Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc.

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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