For Starters I have discovered over the last year that I am more of a switch with a highly dominant side. I truly love the power of being someone’s DOM, but I would love to change it up every now and again. If I had to quantify it, I would say a perfect week might be 5 days as her DOM, 1 Vanilla and 1 as her sub. The beauty of it is, I don’t seem to worry about mixing the kink and vanilla worlds. The last several partners I’ve had, we seem to be able to do that magically. About Me I am 48 years old, yet I’ve been told I look like I’m in my early to mid- 30’s. And, I still have the zest for life of someone that age, with experience of my years. On a non-kink note, I do like to consider myself a pretty good cook. Italian, Chinese and American grill and BBQ are my dishes of choice. And I love nothing more and feel nothing is more sexy that to cook for your partner. I do so love bolting back and forth across the kitchen, as she sits and awaits the meal I am preparing. Knowing full well that, once we are done with said meal, playtime is not far off. Physically: I’m 5’8”, and 290 pounds. I know, I am no “pretty boy”. Also, I am not blessed with a massive member. I know there are quite a number of women out there that this is a major requirement, and I do not judge you for that. I have been told by my last 2 partners that I had nothing to worry about. I have been told that I am attractive, I can be as confident in my abilities as any other man out there. Medically: Part of the physical. I will say this, due to my weight, which I am working on, over the last year I have dropped down to the 290 from 350, I am a diabetic. With diabetes can come a condition that most men would find quite embarrassing. I am doing my best to get over this affliction. While I can still perform (we can talk about this if you wish), I have learned, thanks to some amazing friends here on Fetlife, that there are ways around this. It really works on a man’s confidence, but thanks to an amazing partner I was last with, I have learned that this part of my life, the sexually kinky part, does not have to end, and that I can still please a woman, in the most basic way a man can please a woman. What I am looking for I am looking for someone who shares my dreams, both in the world of vanilla and the world of kink. I want a girlfriend who is my sub, who can turn the tables every now and again, and who can appreciate what I can offer in the vanilla world. By vanilla, I enjoy movies, bars with friends, and any other activities that we can do together. Karaoke is a huge favorite of mine, and I miss having someone I can sing to and for. I will admit, I am a bit of a nerd/geek/dork, what-ever you want to call me. I tend to be attracted to women younger than me. Why? I am not sure, honestly. I guess part of it is because I reate better with younger people. I just feel more comfortable. If you have read this far, and I seem like someone you would enjoy to get to know, I hope you message me. I am hoping to find that per who can be my girlfriend, my wife, my sub and my partner, in every sense, through vanilla, through kink and through life. Thank you for taking the time to read this, Matthew Moderator group #annarborbdsm

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Hard Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Threesomes, Cross Dressing, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Leather, Latex, Fisting

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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