having been here off and on over the past few years, engaging in some relatively speaking good conversations with some, bad conversations with others, and indifferent conversation all around……I thought I’d change to some degree what it is I’m looking for open to so speak…….. I’m a normal guy, who in the grand realm of things is looking for a normal woman, a mature woman, that regardless of her interest takes the time and says hello back, even if they’re not interested, not one that simply deletes a message based on some preconceived notion of who one might be based on simply looking at ones pic, I’m a forty something year old man (not lonely, by no means desperate) who goes to work, cares for his loved ones, gets out from time to time, enjoys himself, goes home and does it all over again……I enjoy life to its absolute fullest, I have fun with almost everything I do……smooth jazz, nice r and b is my passion, hanging out chatting learning about one another…….is as well. One thing I have found in this forty plus years is that sparks don’t fly out of my rear end, I can’t pull rabbits out of a hat, (I’ve Tried……LOL) and I most certainly cannot read anyone’s mind……..in the interest of reading one’s mind let me say this…….. I’m here, with hopes I can meet someone I can do those things I do when I get out from time to time with, additionally someone I can share a drink, a meal, a kiss, an intimate moment with…….. If you’ve read this and find you’re here for some of the same reas as myself…..let’s talk….see where it takes us, who knows it might be good………. having said all this, I think it important to note, that given my situation (not to be mentioned here, and please don’t draw any conclusions…..if you have a question, ask, and I will answer) I am not looking for a relationship (hence the rea I am in the not looking for a committed relationship section), this is not to say that I am a playa (by no means my style) it just means that I have some things going on in my life that doesn’t allow me to be in a relationship (again please don’t come to any preconceived notions of who I am) who I am is a man looking for a friend…….if you’re in that same place, let’s chat and take things from there. Take Care -S