I'm a single, bi or bi-curious (see below for a little clarification) male looking for "friends with benefits" rather than a quick one-time hookup. I have minimal sexual experience with people and so my desire is to become acquainted with any potential partners online (at least) before things head to the bedroom. Unless instant chemistry graces us (or rather me if you're much less shy) with its presence, I'm in no rush. I'm looking for men or women, and my sexual interests will vary accordingly.. With men I want to assume a "feminine" sexual role (or be the bottom if you prefer that term). With women I think I'd be interested in a "traditional" role but my experience isn't helpful in that regard. (I do find the female body more attractive/enticing than the male, but am interested in having sex with men... label that as you will. Of course that is an oversimplification.)

My Ideal Person I gravitate toward alt-culture types, or at least those who consider themselves mainstream but have no real regard for long-entrenched tropes (like gender norms, for example). I would like to meet people who are into science-fiction/fantasy, the sciences, and/or gaming. Topics I have little to say on for various reasons: sports, music, politics (just... no), and religion.

Singles or couples only, please. I will not be a party to any infidelity. If you are playing with your partner's consent or encouragement I expect to hear that from them. Discretion is important, and it should go without saying, so is being drug and disease free (exceptions being marijuana and alcohol... within reason).

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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