So I have been on this site for a month or so. I have gotten a few winks and added a few friends to the friends list. I though at one point I was going to meet with someone but, in typical AFF meet fashion there was always that thing that came up for them at the last minute. Reconciliation with their significant other, or what have you. I find that it is frustrating when the site says someone is on IM but I open that page and they are not there. Does anyone know what that means? Does it mean that they WERE there sometime that day-week or year. I comment to gain points and use those points to become a fan only to find that that per hasn't been on the site for a few years... I always felt like just your normal average guy, was married for almost twenty years and kept my nose to the grindstone. I have no idea on how to just get out and meet people although I have an outgoing perality I find myself being shy. I guess I am sexually shy and find pushy people not to my liking. I am a firm believer that things should take time if in the long run you want them to be meaningful. There are a couple of turn offs as I don't drink or do drugs and prefer someone who doesn't do drugs. Light social drinking is about what I do, maybe some lemonade with Vodka when the weather is warm or an Old single malt when the weather changes. I do like to experiment with rope leather and other bondage devices but not required. Would love to have you on a leash but, all this is up to discussion. I would like to experiment, touch you stroke you who knows what else. Have never done it, tried once but that wasn't what they were interested in. I do smoke, hardly ever drink I would like to find someone to simply enjoy their company get to know them and relax around them. Someone to have an intelligent conversation and who inspires me to seek out the knowledge and answers to questions that might come up. Wow that sounds mystical. I do have pictures in my album, as well as there are attached pictures if you read my blog post. I will eventually find a nice intro picture but have nothing recent. Be safe...be well

My Ideal Person An intelligent open minded person to simply get to know. Maybe I should be on POF or Match, but need you to tell me if I am in the wrong place..

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I would love to meet an attractive woman and have her invite
me over. We are having a converstaion that turns into making
out... As I run my hands over her body and her small breasts
I find she has a little extra... I persuade her to o to her bedroom
and then we see what happens behind closed doors. I honestly
don't know how far I would go, but would be open....

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A bed, A movie theatre, A swimming pool or hot tub, A hotel room, No particular place

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Spanking

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Ability to be discreet, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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