Anyone or any institutions using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. Note: I am not a cop, though I have worked in law enforcement. Zencop is short for Zen Policeman, which is a zen tale of a man who finds out his true purpose in life is to derive order out of chaos. I reactivated my account for a minute because someone was trying to get in touch with me who we wound up missing each other before, kept crossing wires but never connected. So, this profile has to be adjusted for the time difference. The most important confessions that a man could make are: 1) I am not the best lover; 2) I do not have the biggest dick; and 3) I can not make every woman orgasm. I once shocked a friend with this when he purchased my first book and was amazed that I wrote the book; it dealt with love and he only saw me as the warrior. The reality is that unless you are the master of the bedroom, or you simply exist only at a certain level where you really don't take in other forms of input and analysis, then this is your reality. Many men don't realize -- or won't admit -- that every opportunity with a woman that you don't know can be scary as if you are interested in satisfying her, you never know what it really takes to do that. The reality is that most women's orgasms are controlled by their mind, and even if you have the skills that most of the world would be envious of, the slightest thoughts going through her mind might make her ability to let go and orgasm impossible. Sex is sex, and you never know whose going to rock your world until you enter that domain. The true secret of being happy is to give more than you take; if everyone did that, we'd all be satisfied. Sex is about the connection, and if you can't stimulate my mind, then you won't get the best out of me. Don't expect me to go on four hours if you can't even jog for fif minutes. I know what I am capable of, and it depends on what the other per brings to the table as well. This is not a guarantee either [as I don't sell wolf tickets] because sometimes people are not compatible sexually at first, and sometimes never. Me? A renaissance man completely; mind, body and soul. Artist, musician, athlete, thinker. My tastes run the whole gamut, pretty much because I believe that the equation of attraction and intersection changes with each per that you throw into the mix. Either you add more variables and constants, or you subtract them. I believe that each woman has her own beauty and just needs to realize what it is and bring it out, that is if she hasn't done it already. I can be mesmerizing as well as intimidating; I have a very strong perality. However, I don't try to run or control people, and in some cases, some folks think that I am going to be like that common guy, and I am nothing like it. I respect intelligence in a woman, and the aesthetic beauty over the idealized concept of what is put out there ad nauseum in print, film and tv. I am looking and am not looking for a relationship. That' an interesting limbo right there. If it fits, then fine, and if it doesn't, then I am cool with that as well. Sometimes we can come into people's lives for a reason other than the one that we intended. And just because it might not be for what you intended, it might be a beautiful friendship or association nonetheless. I am attracted to women of all races, and mainly date 40 an. Believe it, or not, I have been dating in this range, and at least ten years older than me, since I was 24. I prefer the wine of a well-ripened g. Pretty much my enjoyment revolves around wine, women and g. This means that I enjoy a great glass/bottle, an interesting woman and great music. I have no interests in going to strip clubs, watching porn, or trolling bars. That's not my style. I am also a voracious reader. Weekend nights you will usually find me home by nine, watching a favorite show or two and drinking a nice glass/bottle of wine. I have no problem sharing that with another. Weekend mornings might have me catching the matinee at the movies or maybe having brunch on Sunday. While I am not a gourmet, I do cook and it gets interesting as I learn more and more things and get into them. For the past two years, I have been experimenting with ceviche as well as stir fry. Currently, I am messing around with duck. I just got a new range with all the bells and whistles so I am excited. I also play steward/protector of three female cats who live me [and who each can't stand one another -- they're so damned catty], two male cats who live outside, and three squirrels who inhabit the block. If I hit the lottery, I already have a wonderful house picked out that will accommodate everyone except for the squirrels. Yes, I am an animal per and between s and ex-girlfriends, I am also loved by a bevy of dogs who won't leave me alone for at least thirty minutes when they see me.

My Ideal Person I thought that several times I met that person that I really wanted, only for them to not be truthful about their own lives, or just in turn full of shit. I seek more than a quick turn in the sack, though there are times that just a great sexual release would be appreciated. It's not the issue of not having partners, but wanting a better quality of sex.

I have met some wonderful people on this site, some of whom I have known for years and we have become friends outside of the dynamic of sex. However, no matter how enjoyable the sex was, they were not the ones to become my significant other, but respect is still there. There are people whom I have met here whom I have yet to connect with because of distance and responsibility, but hopefully that will change soon.

Size, shape, race and age doesn't matter as much as mind, spirit and attitude. A confident woman with class and respect will wow me more than a stereotypically stunninwomen with a bad attitude and who also can't cook. And there are a ton of women in this world who have no class; it's what my mom calls "uncouth." Oh, and I also have to add that for those people trying to stay what they deem as relevant with the younger generation by writing emails that look like the text messages of a teenager, you can just pass me by.

I am looking for someone who has some stimulating conversation and possibly some great sexual chemistry. If you're an idiot, bigot, asshole, can't speak English without sounding like a hoodrat, are a gold-digger, can't spell, or get off on being something like "the baddest bitch," then it just won't work at all. Please have a brain, please be into doing more than the norm, please have some interests, please be challenging.

If you're not into Black males, I can understand that. I am not into them either, or any other males for that matter. I can sympathize with the continual pleas from men who simply look at you as some prized sexual contest/conquest and don't see you for you, because I don't want it to happen to me. And, having been around I can understand not wanting to be around certain attitudes which might be less than civilized; I am not a fan of rednecks myself.

I am not into being filmed or having sex with you while your hubby watches. On the former I am not into capturing the moment or being part of someone's memorial collection and on the latter I just find it damned creepy. And while I can respect people wanting sex their way, I am not interested in being part of a group of men who engage you.

I would love to find someone who I connect with in the bedroom and maybe even outside of it. Hell, I have a lot going on right now professionally and between getting back into working out like crazy, learning Italian, freelance projects, work and my own creative projects, I just need some great/phenomenal sexual releases.

At your core, be yourself. I am not interested in the accumulation of tattoos, piercings, wigs/weaves, and/or material things that might make you feel like you are all that. Life is struggle, and we all have things that we go through and experience.

For me, on a deeper level [and this goes for those people looking for someone more permanent], there are two parts of me that really matter; my brain is the first and my penis is the second. If the sex is totally satisfying but my brain doesn't agree with your thought process and actions in your life, it won't work. If my brain loves you, but I am not sexually satisfied, that's a strikeout as well. I can easily fall in love, but staying there is something else. Trust me, I have looked at situations at each end and wondered for days on end if I could commit to the other person and be happy. The final answer was always no.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
No particular place

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Judith Light, Vesta Williams, Stockard Channing, Jeri
Ryan, Marina Sirtis

Have you ever had cybersex?:
No way. I only want skin on skin.

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